Make room for the other version
Ask what the other person understood before assuming that you are arguing about the same facts. For a message about how to tell a date you are divorced, use this factual base: refer to what actually happened, what you want now, and any personal information relevant to informed consent.
Correct the record precisely
Correct only what you can support, acknowledge any real impact, and propose a practical way to prevent repetition. Make one clear invitation or boundary and leave room for a different pace or a no. Make the immediate next step clear enough that the recipient can answer without reconstructing the entire history.
Agree on a testable next step
Do not flood someone with messages, demand exclusivity, or use vulnerability to create an obligation. Meet safely, protect personal information, and stop contact when a refusal, block, threat, or deceptive identity is involved. Do not recruit an audience, publish private evidence, or turn a misunderstanding into a campaign about character.